“If love craves a cross – even God’s true love is sacrificial.  That is why courtship is characterized by gift-giving – a surrender of what one has.  In marriage this sacrificial love should deepen by a surrender of what one has.  Because too many measure their love for one another by the pleasure which the other gives, they are in reality not in love, but in the swamps of selfishness.  Our poor, frail human souls at best are like jangled strings, made toneless by self-love; and not until we tighten them with self-discipline can we attune them to those harmonies that come from God, wherein each, having given to the other hostage of its heart, finds himself free in the glorious liberty of the children of God.  Peace first came to the world when the Wise Men discovered a family.  And the dawn of peace will come again when other wise men return to homes where they see the human family of father, mother, and children, as the reverse order of the Holy Family: a Child, a Mother, and a Father.”  Archbishop Fulton Sheen (Seven Pillars of Peace)